An excellent article on getting the “ups and downs” of having a new puppy in your life by Gillian Ridgeway http://www.dogstardaily.com/blogger/723
It all starts with an image. The image that we focus in our heads is one of the loyal, faithful companion. The companion that is willing to dole out unconditional love to us after a hard day at the office. We visualize ourselves tossing a stick on a beach just as the sunset is approaching. We visualize ourselves sipping coffee at an outdoor café with our dogs patiently waiting at our sides and we visualize just how cool this dog will be as he lopes around the dog park, with only eyes for you.
The initial honeymoon stage is over, the novelty has worn thin and Oscar becomes more of a nuisance than a companion. He doesn’t seem to take to toilet training as quickly as your cousin’s dog. He jumps more, chews more, barks more and digs more than you ever expected and now sometimes you wonder if you even like him anymore.
The fact is that almost everyone feels this same sense of doubt. We worry about the choice we made, not the choice of dog but the actual choice to add a dog to our family.
When I made up my mind to switch vehicles, the process was exciting. I went to the car lots and got all the brochures. I did my research and invested in the lemon-aid book, a guide to used cars. All this preparation was part of the fun. After laying out my criteria it seemed that I would never find a vehicle that had everything on my list. Finally, the perfect vehicle was sitting on the lot, at the right price! It was so perfect that it was difficult to say no. After all, if I said no to this vehicle, then what was I looking for? I signed on the dotted line and once again became excited by the prospect of my new van. Upon picking it up, it was a delight. It was peppy and had a great stereo system. As I do a lot of traveling with my dogs, one of my main criteria was that the van had to have rear air conditioning. Well, it did have that, but when I started to move the seats around to accommodate the dogs, I noticed a small glitch. It was a bit more difficult to arrange them in the configuration that was originally planned. This was a source of distress for me for a month or so. I lamented over the fact that my old vehicle was perfect for the crate set up. Eventually, I got used to the new van and I wouldn’t have traded it for anything else.
Death causes stages of emotions and grieving. This situation is so “normal” that these stages are documented. It is a sense of comfort to people to know that their reaction during this process is considered normal.
It seems then, that it would be considered normal to experience some kind of emotional upheaval when a dog is suddenly living in your house.
“At first, I wanted to send her back. I thought I had made a mistake. After ten months, nothing and nobody could make me give her up.”